It's love...

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Mihail121 102 Mar 26, 2004 at 12:01

Well, here is the actuall story:

i was walking through our school like a month ago and i saw some girl on the stairs. “Nothing fancy” - i said to myself. “There are a lot of girls around so i’ll consider this situation normal…”. But it wasn’t quite normal. I woke up the next day with the feeling that something ain’t right. The only thing in my head was that girl i saw on the stairs. I tried to concentrate on chemistry(!) and nothing happened. I tried to work on physiks(!!!!) - the same. I tired to program something(!!!!!!!!!!!!!) - didn’t work.

I started to goof around and everybody noticed that. They gave me some advices like the standart ones:

“go and talk to her”
“take her to a date”
“invite her to a movie”

After some days this feeling made me almost nuts so i decided to actually go and talk to her.

I’ve put on some nice clothes, brushed me teeth (for second time this year!!!!), bought some ment candys and i went to her. But she waasn’t in school that day. The situation was the same for 3 days and every next try was more painfull than the other.

Finally, i found here in the physiks room (this is a weird sign, huh :wtf:) and i asked here to come for a little privat talk. I explained her that i’m thinking of her day and night. Then i invited her to a date so we can learn some more stuff of eachother. She refused by just saying “I don’t think so”….

And that was all. It was hard for me that day but you know, this girl changed by entire life and since then i also see the good things in life. Well yeah it’s kinda brutal that i have to see her everyday in school and that i can’t be with her but, oh well, it’s all fate after all.

P.S.

If you think it’s dumb, just don’t post an answer…

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SpreeTree 101 Mar 26, 2004 at 12:21

I explained her that i’m thinking of her day and night

Saying that to a girl in the first 5 minutes of talking to her is never a good thing… But we’ve all been there :)

Spree

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anubis 101 Mar 26, 2004 at 12:51

Saying that to a girl in the first 5 minutes of talking to her is never a good thing… But we’ve all been there

not true. it’s more like playing russian roulette. chances are that she liked you too beforehand and was just too afraid to talk to you… slim chance that is :D anyway, what’s wrong with telling a girl that you like her ? i always did it that way and it worked out for me just fine (after i was 17… before that somehow girls were just chasing guys over 20… not that i blame them. when i look at youg boys i wouldn’t care to go out with them either, if i was a girl). after all i think it’s not that you say it but how you say it that might trick a female into going out with you :)

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SpreeTree 101 Mar 26, 2004 at 13:36

Nothing wrong in telling a girl you like her, but I was saying the same thing as you. Its how you tell her, not what you tell her.
Saying “I noticed you on the stairs the other day” is better than “I noticed you on the stairs the other day, and since then you have been in my mind every second of the day”. Most girls (though granted, if they like you loads to, not all), would think “errr… stalker!”

Spree

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anubis 101 Mar 26, 2004 at 14:19

greatly depends on your looks i guess :D

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SpreeTree 101 Mar 26, 2004 at 14:46

We’re computer programmers…. were screwed ;)

Spree

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davepermen 101 Mar 26, 2004 at 15:02

.. girls are a difficult thing ..

my only big advice: forget about her, move on to the next one..

and now anubis walks in here and sais “so, dave.. why don’t you follow your own suggestion?”..

well.. damnit:D

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anubis 101 Mar 26, 2004 at 15:33

hehe
i was indeed about to say that… a good advice anyway

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TheCell 101 Mar 26, 2004 at 15:59

One thing that I learned the hard way is that a girl is not comfortable with someone that love her more than she loves him. As most people say, it’s all in the word you use. I’ve noticed that if you say something like “I’m interested in you”, you have much more chances of getting a new friend, and even girlfriend. It doesn’t always work, but from my own empiric evidences, it seems to work better by showing interest rather than showing love. Showing love is like Anubis said : a Russian Roulette with a bullet in every chamber except one.

But most important of all, never let hope goes down. Someday, sometime, that magic thing called love will come to you. As for myself, I’m still waiting, but I have a lot of new friends with whom I have wonderful time, and it all turned out for the best.

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baldurk 101 Mar 26, 2004 at 16:25

wow, this topic grew fast. Must be a topic close to everyone’s heart :P (pun intented).

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Noor 101 Mar 26, 2004 at 17:01

wow, this topic grew fast. Must be a topic close to everyone’s heart (pun intented).

Hehe, what’s what I thought too.. What a romantic story you have there!

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anubis 101 Mar 26, 2004 at 17:04

i wonder why women have this sharp sense for turning you down in the most hurting fashion imaginable

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TheCell 101 Mar 26, 2004 at 17:34

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davepermen 101 Mar 26, 2004 at 19:21

@anubis

i wonder why women have this sharp sense for turning you down in the most hurting fashion imaginable

because the only way to really love someone is to open yourself. and that open, only your true love can hurt you that strong.

that said, with two of my ex i’m happily living now in friendship, and similar to what thecell told, yes, it is sort of more intim and more close than a “normal girlfriend”. we don’t only know the good of eachother, but we know as well on how to hurt each other till heart. i’m happy we where able to stay above this, never let drop the good things, the things that made us love eachother, out of the heart.

in that sence: greetings to isabel and sandy, you’re always in my heart, thanks for the great time, and i’m looking forward to a great future with you..

those are the ones i can really trust in.

sadly it didn’t worked out that fine with the last one.. the one a lot of you in here even saw picts and all.. i miss you, and i hope to find together with you one day in peace.. this duck’n’cover play of now isn’t fun, nope, it just hurts.

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anubis 101 Mar 26, 2004 at 20:04

because the only way to really love someone is to open yourself. and that open, only your true love can hurt you that strong

maybe that’s what was wandering about in my mind when i wrote that last post.

I have this friend, which I’ve known for about 3 years. For some reason, I started to think more and more about her about 3 months ago. I finally told her that recently, I’ve had growing interest in her, and that this interest was more than the interest friends share. She told me that she noticed my growing interest, and that she found me interesting, but simply not in the same way. She added that even though she didn’t had that same interest, she absolutely wanted us to stay good friends. She then inquired about if I would be able to get past this, etc… I think that was exactly the things to say and do. She turned me down in the less hurting way I could ever think of. We used to be somehow close, but since that day, we’re very close. As I said, it turned out for the best. I simply say to myself that it simply wasn’t my time, and maybe even the right person

i had the same experience with a friend of mine, too. i didn’t know her for that long but the result was the same. it wasn’t her fault but it hurt plenty for reasons she couldn’t know

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anubis 101 Mar 26, 2004 at 20:06

btw, i apreciate this thread very much. we should all share more of our personal life here…

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davepermen 101 Mar 27, 2004 at 02:31

yeah, i like it, too..

i’m at home right now, and feel very relaxed, but not tierd.. one of those nights with the mixed feeling of feeling free and feeling lonely..

happy-sad is a strange feeling.

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Mihail121 102 Mar 27, 2004 at 09:20

Bah, didn’t expect that people will actually care….

Anyway, it was really my first experience (before that, i was explaining myself in love to the newest AMD processors :) ) so i guess i didn’t picked up the best lines to say to her but it wasn’t that bad too.

Forget her? Pretty much impossible for the time beeing since my mind refuses to obey me from some time now….

Anyway, the life continues and nobody’s dead so we can safely assume that nothing bad has happened (nothing bad != nothing painfull ) :).

Well that’s it. I just recieved Andre’ LaMothe’s book so i’ll try to concentrate a little more on that.

Cya!

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anubis 101 Mar 27, 2004 at 10:05

davepermen : when i’m in that kind of mood i usually put on some ambient music and try to make a wellness evening/night out of it (bath tub, candles, tea or whatever suits you)

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davepermen 101 Mar 28, 2004 at 04:15

problem just was, it was about 6-8 hours too late to call it evening/night :D

well, at dawn, i thought about going out to walk into the sunlight.. but it was too cold, so i went to bed instead…

now it’s about the same again (but the sun is “one hour late now” :D).. so.. no walking in sunshine.. and i’ll go to bed soon. my left leg hurts like hell, wasn’t able to shake at all this night (i did anyways:D).

love is understandable. but it’s not controlable, and not at all logical. (well, it follows certain logic, but not the one you want to:D).

i’m seeing that in different situations currently, and it’s.. i’ll call it interesting.

oh, and mihail. i know those steps are hard to do. i can tell you one secret: i for myself never got yet that far to ever talk to a girl by myself to get her for a date, or something. and i had yet 3 girlfriends, and had a very nice time with them.

you don’t need to follow the ‘rules’ you learn in the sitcoms in tv :D

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anubis 101 Mar 28, 2004 at 10:12

what strikes me is that apparently their are two totally separate entities in me that don’t seem to work together in any way (in fact they seem to hate each other). i was in situations where my mind told me that i should stay away from a certain girl because getting in touch with her would only mean trouble and yet there was this other part that drew me to her. it kind of felt like somebody is remote controlling you…

you don’t need to follow the ‘rules’ you learn in the sitcoms in tv

listen to him. it’s true

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Mihail121 102 Apr 01, 2004 at 15:13

Oh, sorry for the long delay. I don’t have net in house as you know.

Anyway, thanks for the advices and stuff ( i never follow ‘rules’ and i never watch anything else than Cartoon Network guys ;) )

But wait!!! I’ve not yet surrendered.

What i did, was to write some lyrics ( a whole poem ) to explain myself in love better. Any my plan is to present the stuff to her along with a cool red rose right after those eastern holydays.

That might work!

Cheers!

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davepermen 101 Apr 01, 2004 at 17:28

have fun:D

just sawn my love walking beneath my house down the street at the river with her mother…. :(

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anubis 101 Apr 02, 2004 at 00:07

that’s a cute idea but my guess is that that won’t help you much right now. as she oviously doesn’t think too much of you, you should try to simply get her attention. start out by telling her that you are sorry about your previous rudeness and that you’d just like to meet her sometime or even more subtile than that. you really don’t want to kick in her door at this stage

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Mihail121 102 Apr 03, 2004 at 09:44

Well…uhmmm….hmmm…..well (again) i’m bit of confused but hell i’ll try everything possible.

I realize that i was a bit rude the first time but nothing too serious i guess. I’ll just think over the things logically without without doing the stuff like a complete barbarian. Maybe the answer is much more simpler than i expect ( like it always occurs to be :) )

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anubis 101 Apr 03, 2004 at 11:18

funny story, yesterday i saw a tv show about getting the attention of women. they had this idiot who never dated any chicks and a psychiatrist who was supposed to help him. apparently chiks dig guys who come up to them and tell them that they’d like to have their phone number, go out with them, etc. ( at least the psychiatrist said so ). interestingly enough this guy runs around for an hour in a mall asking 100+ girls to go out with him and finally he meets one that says yes. i just thought : thats a man for you, running around asking 100 girls not caring which one he gets as long as he gets one. seriously… how desperate do you have to be to behave that way ?

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davepermen 101 Apr 04, 2004 at 13:18

i remember that t-shirt:
front: “i fuck at the first date”
back: “i’m virgin”

and the person who had the t-shirt was about 40..

hehe:D